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Quote Originally Posted by MWOLFE View Post
Retirement is great but not all that it's cracked up to be. Yes, we do get to fish more often but there are still many issues and responsibilities to attend to.

First off, it is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When this becomes apparent, try not to yell at them. Some are oversensitive, and there's nothing worse than an oversensitive woman.

Let me relate how I handle these situations with my wife, Beckie. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Beckie to get a full-time job, along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the marina about the same time she gets home from work.

Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch at the Tiki Bar, so eating out is not an option for us in the evening. I'm ready for some home-cooked food when I walk through that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating but now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.

Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour, but chaps, we take them for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two, or even three days. That way, she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then would probably help her figure. I like to think tact is one of my strong points.

When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half-finished mowing the lawn. I tried not to make a scene. I'm a fair man so I told her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed orange juice, and just relax for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she might as well make one for me too.

I know that I probably look like a saint to most of you in the way I support Beckie. I'm not saying that showing this much patience & consideration is easy. Many men would find it difficult if not impossible. Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women can get as they get older. However, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife as a result of reading this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other. ....Tight Lines
MWOLFE
I feel your pain! After I have spent a full day on the bay to bring home some beautiful fresh rockfish it can be frustrating to have to wait for the wife to come home to clean and cook these hard earned fish. What is especially frustrating for me is the three days a week after her regular workday she has to stop by the barn to clean out our horse stalls, an dinner is always late on those days. she should know by now that I have to get up early the next day to fish. So after reading your post it is nice to know that I am not alone in this. Like you I will try to be less critical of the little woman.
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    MWOLFE.. I feel your pain! After I have spent a full day on the bay to bring home some beautiful fresh rockfish, it can be frustrating to have to wait for the wife to come home to clean and cook these hard earned fish. What is especially frustrating for me is the three days a week, after her regular workday, she has to stop by the barn to muck out our horse stalls, Supper is always late on those days. She should know by now that I have to get up early the next day to fish. So after reading your post it is nice to know that I am not alone in this. Like you, I will try to be less critical of the little woman.
    Updated 10-10-2015 at 09:33 PM by 22 CC Rider

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